31 , PA or | Dominant man looking to lead, shape, and build something with the right woman

At the core of it, I'm looking for someone to come home to. I want to build you up into the best version of yourself I can make you, then show you all the ways I've helped you grow and all the things you've accomplished. To put it succinctly, I want my "one and done with kink involved".

As for what draws me to the dynamic, a big part of it is the mental centering I get from control. Of knowing that I can give an order and it'll be obeyed because you \*want\* to obey it, not because I've broken you and you're obeying out of fear. The other part is the pride I get from keeping my submissive on track, being her rock and the person she turns to when the world gets too loud.

In terms of kinks, I've always described myself as a cuddly Dom with a sadistic streak. I'm just as happy to lay you down on the bed and dive between your legs until you shove me away as I am to go get the Hitachi and the Bad Dragon and pull orgasm after orgasm from you until you've forgotten how to form words. Favorite kinks include anal, begging, bondage (need to practice those knots I learned in Scouts somehow), orgasm play and denial, overstimulation and stretching. I can do pain, but I'm not the biggest fan - spanking and the occasional face slap are as far as I will go.

Outside of kink, I tend to describe myself as a nerd's nerd with a gym membership. I work out three days a week, walk my dog five miles a day and fence on Sundays. But I'm most comfortable in my office painting or gaming, and favorite dates of mine include bookstores, coffee shops and farmer's markets more than movie theaters or fancy restaurants.

Feel free to leave a comment if I sound like someone you could see standing above you.

P.S. In case they're dealbreakers, I am childfree and don't currently drive.