32 , hotwife wondering if the LOML cuck is out there

Local only, not interested in online or distance relationships!

We may have crossed paths before if you’re on the apps (especially feeld), or even here on this site. I have posted here once before, met someone, had a multi-year relationship, and then we broke up (on good terms). I was naive at the time, I should have realized that he was not the one for me, but we live and we learn (and we go to therapy!). (The likelihood of him seeing this is relatively high so… If you see this, hi! And please don’t acknowledge that you saw this. Thank you!)

I’m older and wiser now, and have a much better idea of what I want… and what I deserve... Emotional intelligence, hobbies/friendships, a balance between enjoying life and focusing on health, a desire to treat his partner like his equal (or more than!). I like receiving acts of services and gifts (which makes me feel materialistic, but ah well, as it is true). I love physical touch and intimacy. Like most of us, I want to feel adored, safe, loved. I want to start a family, so that is absolutely essential. I’m to the left of left, and will only consider those who feel the same way. If I catch you lying about any of these things (or anything in general), I’ll drop you faster than if someone handed me a dustpan with a spider in it.

I like freedom. I don’t like to be told what to do. I want to find the love of my life, without being asked to give up pieces of my life. I’m pretty sure that I want to be a hotwife. I don’t want it to be the central part of my marriage, but it would be a very important part of it. Bonus points if you’re bi/bi-curious/etc. I love the idea of a relationship that seems more traditional from the outside (but not in a red pill way), but is very much the opposite behind closed doors.

I have ADHD. My executive functioning is lacking. Most people would never know that about me. I get things done, perform well at work, keep my home clean, etc. But, it’s a struggle at times. It might be helpful if you are stronger in those ways.

I’m honest, sometimes to a fault. I have a very strong moral compass, also sometimes to a fault. That’s why having similar values is so important to me. I’m a recovering people-pleaser and working on my anxious-attachment style. I have great relationships with immediate and extended family.