33 middle of nowhere (AB) seeking boyfriend

Hey there,

I'm looking for a boyfriend, but I'm in the middle of nowhere Ontario. Anyhow I predominantly identified as pansexual most of my adult life, but sadly that only got me attention from women, I want more experience dating men. This is a big ask I know as I'm in a small town, and there is nary a queer scene here to speak of.

I'm looking for someone laidback and down-to-earth, someone who might share some common interests, while still having our own things. Someone whom is not clingy, but also is affectionate, someone who is okay with dating someone who is aromantic and not seeking anything serious, but wants more than just a random hookup. I'm attracted the most to twinks, feminine guys, and athletic guys. I am broadening my horizons a bit, but those are the types I'm attracted to the most.

Some of my interests include: board games (fun kinds not the stodgy mainstream ones), video games, computers, tabletop roleplaying games, hiking, camping, dancing, karaoke, swimming, making art, 80s goth subculture, music, film, psychology, memes (the more offensive the better), british shows (both comedic and serious), and running (admittedly I've put on a bit of weight, but I'm curvy AF, got nice thighs and a booty that won't quit).

I'm a kinky and "GGG" (Good, Giving, Game) personality type in the bedroom, I'm blunt AF as I was raised with European sensibilities; however I did grow up in Canada so I can turn on the overly polite bs when I need to. I'm also what's called an ethical non-monogamist. This is partly due to the fact that monogamy has never been a good fit for me, and I also don't have a single jealous bone in my body.

Honesty and sexual health & safety are the only things of the utmost importance to me, and at the end of the day sex with other people is generally just sex. I won't get upset if you want to hook up with exes, friends, etc. so long as you're honest and upfront about it, and are on top of testing, and are responsible with sexual health and safety, I've not once had an STI/HIV/AIDs scare, and I'm looking to keep that streak going the rest of my life. I used to do polyamory, but it still follows traditional relationship roles, and often times can get cringey when people practice hierarchical polyamory.