40 east coast US

I’m not sure this is the right place for me to find who I’m looking for, but maybe you can relate...

I am married but it’s complicated & since you’re here, I’m sure you understand.
I don’t want to waste anyone’s time so let me lay out all the disclosures 1st - I’m 40, I’m semi-retired (long story) but I continue to pursue new endeavors & I very much enjoy what I do.
I like challenges, maybe I’m a bit of an adrenaline junkie, but there’s balance. I’ll jump out of a plane with you in the morning & settle in to a book by the fire at night. I don’t drink or smoke & i go to bed early lol. no one has ever called me boring tho. Oh, and I roll with an entourage so expect a package deal lol

I’m looking for a man who’s not done living yet. Someone who’s feeling dormant - socially, intellectually, sexually... I’m looking for a man that WANTS to have insightful conversations - someone who has something to say and has put in the work to know what he’s saying, someone who i can go to for guidance or when I need someone to bounce some ideas off of. & I want him to come to me too - because he’s smart enough to know when to outsource 🙂

If you’re just looking to rub one out from time to time, I’m not your girl. I won’t take my clothes off for money or just entertainment.
I’m not going to sell you anything.
I’m not going to buy anything.
I won’t interfere with your life & I appreciate the same in return.
I guess at the end of the day I’m looking for “my person”.

As far as the “affair” aspect… yeah, idk how I’ll feel about that… I’m not the jealous type but i don’t want some girl to be under the impression that she’s in a happy marriage when that’s not true.

I married my high school sweetheart & I know that love CAN change - because we change. So I know that there is still love there - but we want different things in life now & we know that neither one of us are where we’re supposed to be. But change isn’t easy & the path isn’t always straight & clear. The circumstances may not be ideal, but dignity & respect can still exist. I don’t enjoy the idea of sneaking around - but at this present time, discretion is what I need. I’m just looking for someone in a similar place in life who gets it.