40ish Travel companion, confidant and more. (NY home base)

I'll start off by saying I'm only looking for someone I can actually see, touch, and spend face to face time with. You don't have to live here, I'm open to long distance, but you would have to be here or meet somewhere somewhat regularly.

My marriage is open, but that doesn't exclude me from wanting, needing, something more. I suppose what I'd like is an affair of sorts. Nearing 40, suicide girl type, curvy and fair, inked and pierced. I like my opposite though, clean cut and professional, although I wouldn't object to someone kind of like me. I'm soft spoken, thoughtful, raw and honest. I don't shy away from my challenges, I'm articulate about who and what I am, including my struggles and shortcomings. I don't do bullshit, and I don't care to be on the receiving end of yours, either.

I'm a mom and a business owner, I have a full life of my own choosing, but I would like to make time for someone who speaks to the part of me that I don't show everyone else. The right someone for me is also mostly content with their life, but needs something they can't quite put their finger on. Someone thoughtful, who communicates well, and often. I have a weakness for beards and hairy chests. I very much prefer 40s- early 50s, I really do not find myself connecting with younger people.

Deal breakers for me are cigarettes, narcissists (I can smell them), and DT supporters, or anyone who doesn't believe in fighting for the greater good. My spouse is 100% on board, but not involved in my outside of the house relationships. Maybe you're out there.