Guys, here’s a few ideas from an old dude that might help somebody out there.

1. Know your audience. Do not just play the numbers game and “shotgun” messages to every single post you see. Read the post...twice! If we, as a group, cut down on the number of messages a female receives that are no where near what they are looking for, the chances of somebody that really meets the criteria go way up.

There are usually clues on there to let you know if you are in the ball park of what they are looking for.

Age: If there is an age range and you are not in said range, do not message.

Location: If there is a specified location and you are not in that location, or have the means to get to that location regularly, do not message.

Type of affair: If they are looking for an online,emotional, long term affair and you are just looking to get a handy behind the dumpster at a truck stop, do not message.

Physical: If they are looking for a clean cut professional and you are bearded and tattooed, do not message.

2. Think about your message. They are getting bombarded with messages as soon as they hit send on the post. A simple “Hey” or “Sup” probably isn’t going to get a response. Send a well thought out message describing yourself and what you are looking for, touch on something that stood out about the post that got your attention. I cannot stress this next one enough. Unless the post specifically says she is just looking to get her back blown out, do not send a dick pic on the first message!

3.If you do get a reply. If you are one of the lucky ones that actually get a reply. Be nice. Let her get comfortable before you get ahead of yourself. Don’t try to take it off this site immediately. I know a lot of us don’t really like the chat function here, but it needs to stay here for a minute just to see if it is going to go anywhere. Don’t ask for nudes or try to sext within the first 5 minutes. Patience my boy. Let that come naturally. I would much rather have a pAP want to share an intimate photo or have some adult fun, than feel guilted or pressured into anything like that. It just creepy.