married man looking for an outlet for pent up feelings

First off, I’m not looking to change my situation or fall in love. Just looking to basically have a physical connection with a lovely, naughty lady friend. If you are here to judge, this post is not for you!

I have a near dead bedroom and am looking to spice things up with a woman that has or is willing to try new things, things that aren't vanilla that my wife would refuse to do, someone I can be excited to message and talk to, someone who isn't afraid to share her dark desires and fantasies.

80% of the time, I’m a loving, kind, nice, supportive husband and father. The other 20%, I have cravings and urges that I have to subdue as a husband and father. I need a place to release these pent up feelings. I need an outlet for this side of me. I need someone who is curious about pushing her limits, has an urge to please, take orders and does what she is told. Someone who dreams to give up control to someone she trusts. I don’t know if they are out there, but I need someone who will bring out this side of me into the light and play with it and have fun with it.