Seeking conversation and mutual obsession (ya know, the little things...)

A conversation…I say something, you respond. You say something I make a comment, we go off on a tangent because it reminded me of a time at the place with a friend. The kind that doesn’t come to an abrupt halt constantly with “IDK, u?”. The kind that meanders. “Yes, and…”. All day. Everyday. That doesn’t mean we’re gonna tell each other every single intimate detail of our lives from the jump. It means we can converse about our days, nights, likes, dislikes, the simple things, in generalities or with some things redacted at first, then in more detail as we go along and build trust. Let’s be friends before anything else. From there, who knows, but first things first.

Here are some of the things that are really important to me:

**Time & effort** – I have time during the days and evenings to devote to this. Please be the same. I’m mostly WFH so I’m available to message most of the day, and for calls (video and audio only) regularly. Please be in a similar situation (WFH, SAHM, home business…something along those lines). If we get busy for a bit, we’ll always let each other know ahead of time. The goal, when we get there, is to be mutually obsessed with each other. Good mornings first thing as we wake up. Good night’s without fail. We will be a priority to each other. All the little silly and simple things of the we’ll share without even needing to be asked.

**Being a parent** – I’m one, and I relate much better to other parents with kids in school. Our kids are one of the biggest parts of our joy, and I want to be able to share that with and you with me once we build up trust and get to that point. We’ll give each other advice, share experiences and we’ll celebrate each others important moments. We’ll also help each other bear the frustrations, anxieties, and headaches that arise from being a parent.

**Dead bedroom** – It’s where I’m at, please be the same. Not cake eating, not just looking for strange. Intimacy is damn near a foreign concept to your SO.

**Experienced** – You’re not just lurking and/or new to the AP life. I’ve been through the wringer a few times, I need you to be the same. You know what it takes to keep it going. You’re not afraid of the feels and all that it entails if that’s where it leads. Something special, something that will last. You’re not careless, with safety or feelings. We’ll protect each other.