Some hacks: Tips from a lady this siteor

As you are all very aware, the ratio of men to women posters/lurkers is definitely not 1. Female posters are swamped with messages (it's not uncommon for a /R post to get over 70 replies within the first hour) so we definitely do become a tad bit more selective when deciding which messages garner a response.

*When replying to a post…*

**READ!** Show that you read the post, even if it was tl;dr worthy. If you ask a question that was answered in the OP, it’s going to look like a default message you reply to ever with. Not only that, you’ll know exactly what their intentions are by reading – if she’s just looking for a hookup, an online friend, a cuddle buddy. The OP’s intentions pretty much dictate your reply, if you don’t respect or reflect them… then you shouldn’t be responding. Beneficial for everyone.

**Please, please, please attempt to use correct spelling/grammar.** I’m not saying all girls are grammar nazi and I’m not even saying that all girl’s on this site are “intelligent,” but it’s something everyone notices and subconsciously judges/makes note of.

**Don’t open with an insult or skepticism.** The whole “there are no girls on the internet” dogma is generally unwitty in these situations. Also, don’t openly admit that you think she might be a troll or a guy. C’mon.

**Before you start to type “I know you’re probably getting swamped with…” STOP.** As they always say, anything that comes before “but” is usually bullshit. In this case it’s just unnecessary. It just makes it seem as if you’re worried about all the other replies, but more importantly it gets old. At least 40% of all messages begin this way (arbitrary, made up, but totally plausible statistics… I know.)

**If she says she’s just looking for someone to chat with online, don’t ask her where she’s from right off the bat.** For the most part it’s irrelevant and unimportant for obvious reasons. If it’s important to you and you don’t want to waste time chatting with someone 4000 miles away, then she’s probably not what you’re looking for anyways and vice versa. People rarely forget to include their location in their post, and most often an omission has nothing to do with privacy.