Too old for TikTok dances, too young for bingo at the retirement home

I’m looking for a guy who loves music, gardening, and making life feel a little less like a solo projeOntario. Let’s see if lightning can strike in the compost heap ha!

I’m looking for a thoughtful, emotionally mature guy (35+), who wants something real — friendship first, long-term vibes only. If you’re into music, gardening, good food, and even better conversation, we already have a solid start.

About me: I’m the human companion to two awesome cats with more emotional intelligence than half the apps I’ve been on. I listen to music endlessly, cook a lot and dabble in baking, am into wellbeing and healthy living, read widely, and live for moments of beauty — in music, art, design, nature. I garden for joy, not perfection, and I love trading plant pics and harvest stories like they’re treasure. Bonus points if you also think a perfect day includes dirt under your nails and a great playlist in your ears, or if you’re a musician.

I’m already feeling invisible, neglected and unappreciated in my marriage, so I’m not looking to be someone's afterthought. I want a mutual connection — one with emotional depth, mental stimulation, intellectual chemistry, and yes, sexual attraction too. I’m a hopeless romantic, deeply affectionate, passionate, and honestly? Pretty clingy in the best way. I have time, presence, and care to give throughout the day — whether it's sending little notes, sharing songs, venting, dreaming, or just keeping each other company through the mundane. I’d love someone who also has time and wants to share it — someone who makes space for connection, not just when it’s convenient, but because they genuinely enjoy being close.

I’m big on trust, emotional safety, vulnerability, depth, and being authentic and sincere. I warm up slowly, but when I feel safe, I’m loving, consistent, devoted, and deeply invested.

I’m into the long game. Daily check-ins. Laughing at the same dumb stuff. Supporting each other’s passions and whatever life throws our way. Making Spotify playlists for each other. A deep bond that grows like a well-loved garden.

If this resonates, say hi — and please tell me your favourite music genre, first song to mark our auspicious beginning, and a little gardening anecdote to get my attention. Low-effort intros will be composted immediately.