A letter to all those who have ghosted new

To all the guys that have ghosted me:

I want to say thank you. I used to take it personally but now I see that a lot of the time it was because of your own shortcomings. I don’t hold this against you. We all come into this looking for something. Some of us aren’t quite sure what that is and others know exactly what they want. None of us are perfeOntario. We’re all just lost souls looking for another human being to latch onto. Our current relationships are lacking something and we aren’t sure what that is so we go searching for something more.

Sometimes we get cold feet when we think we have found a connection, sometimes we feel guilty for potentially hurting our partners who most of the time have done nothing wrong and sometimes we just don’t find the type of connection we’re looking for. Whatever the reason, we jump ship without explanation. It’s easier that way. It doesn’t mean that person deserved it. It just means we can’t handle being the bad guy and telling someone they aren’t what we’re looking for or we aren’t looking anymore.

The point of this is I want to thank those lost souls that ghosted me along my journey. They each taught me a little more about who I wanted to be and what I was searching for. With each rejection I grew a little bit closer to my idea of the perfect affair, as bad as that may sound. But that’s what we’re all here searching for.

To the guy who saw my picture and wasn’t interested, thank you. It may have stung a little to be rejected because I wasn’t a size 3 but instead of worrying about being your type I should have just been confident in my own skin. I now have someone who tells me I’m beautiful every single day.

To the guy who talked to me for 2 weeks and then disappeared without a trace, thank you. I sat up waiting for you to answer me all night. You had never done that to me before. I felt abandoned even though it had only been a short time. I now have someone who sends those good morning and good night texts and all the messages in between.

To the guy who ghosted me when I wouldn’t send him nudes, thank you. You started out nice. They all do. Then you asked for a nude and I told you I wasn’t ready yet. You never spoke to me again. I now have someone who waited until I was ready. He gets all of my pictures because I WANT to send them to him, not because he makes me.