Looking or monogamous life partner

**Section 1 / Values and Connecting: What I pay attention to and How I feel connected to others**

I tend to pay the most attention in conversations analyzing real-world events as well social and economic patterns—typically around power, social inequality, and wealth. When I’m first getting to know someone I’ve encountered, I’m really curious about how they interpret what’s happening around them and I usually become more interested in someone once I understand their orient toward political and ethical questions. Later on, that crucial shared ground makes it easier for me to open up and connect about other topics. Since I play piano, I enjoy listening to and analyzing music - pop, R&B, classical, sacred, jazz, etc; but I also like discussing history, films, restaurants, and poetry. My goal is to build a romantic relationship in which there is collaborative thinking that reflects \*shared values\*. I don’t connect much with conversations that stay at the level of generalities. I tend to gravitate towards understanding reasoning and sincere engagement with actual events or ideas.

**Section 2: A typical conversation with me**

A lot of the conversations I enjoy don’t start with scripted “getting to know you” questions. They start with something like: “yo, did you hear what happened with \_\_\_?” Then, I enjoy exploring how each of us is making sense of the topic. I care more about how someone thinks through things rather how they summarize themselves into hobbies or lifestyle features (e.g. which pets, travel), especially in the first interactions. My goal early on is to establish alignment rather than chemistry. Finally, I get excited when someone is comfortable engaging directly with material reality and serious topics (poverty, OJ, pineapple on pizza) without needing to soften or aestheticize them.

**Section 3: I’m not looking for**