Restless, not reckless. Looking for a partner in crime.

I spend my days as a Senior Virtualization Engineer in Healthcare IT, building stability and managing complex systems. While I’m used to keeping high-stakes environments running smoothly, I realize it’s time to shift some of that focus toward my own life. After 28 years of marriage; the last 14 spent supporting a roommate: I’m reclaiming the physical and emotional depth that belongs in a man's life. I’m in no rush to settle for "fine," but I am ready for what’s next.

I’m self-sufficient and grounded. My best headspace is found off the grid through backpacking, camping, or on the water. There's a "Grizzly Adams" streak in me; I’m comfortable in the quiet of the woods, but those moments could carry so much more weight when shared with the right person. I’m not a surface-level guy. Whether it’s the music I lose myself in or the writing I do to clear my head, I lean into things that are visceral. I value that same kind of internal depth in others.

Regarding my current situation: For the last 6 months, I’ve been in an exclusive, sex-only arrangement. While it was reliable, it was strictly transactional, and I’ve realized it’s not what I want moving forward. I’m a one-woman-at-a-time man; I have no interest in juggling multiple people. I’m moving on from that arrangement because it confirmed that I’m holding out for substance. I want a strong, independent woman I actually look forward to talking to—someone whose company I value as much as the chemistry.

To be clear, I’ve always preferred authenticity over the "magazine" look. I find genuine beauty in women who have some life to them and carry themselves with real-world confidence. I’m interested in a partner, not a trophy. To me, a woman's presence and personality are what make her attractive.

I’m in the Dayton/Cincy area. I value my discretion and I’ll value yours. I’m not looking for a "fix," I’m looking for the right connection.

If you’ve got a favorite spot off the grid, an album you still listen to from start to finish, or a perspective that most people miss, tell me about it. I’m looking for a woman with a real pulse. Let's see if our frequencies match.